For years, I thought that it was only people in unhappy relationships who did stray. How wrong I was!!!!
For starters, Men cheat more than women. It may come as cold comfort to women scorned, but men don’t seem to do so with the same intention as women.
In the last 5 years, I’ve talked to many, who are newly dating, engaged, or married young women who describe their relationships or marriages as healthy, happy, and free of major issues.
Conversely, these very "lovebirds" have been physically or emotionally unfaithful. Perhaps you are one of them, and you are currently grappling with why you cheated.
In most cases, I’ve found that “I was drunk” or “My partner wasn’t paying enough attention to me” are just excuses that haven’t been deeply thought out.
Usually, there is a more powerful and personal motive, especially with the ladies..
Some men may cheat because they are unsatisfied, but, as a rule, men don’t cheat because they are unhappy. Men cheat because they think they can get away with it and because they’re willing to let themselves get away with it.
Woman on the other hand, especially those in young relationships, In the beginning, it’s likely their significant other pursued them. They were who they wanted and went after. Although it’s a very funny thing to say, for some women, this is really exciting.
Being courted can make women feel powerful, confident, validated, and beautiful. But as soon as the chase is over and both are officially a couple, some may rely on people outside their relationship for that same affirmation, even if their partner is still giving them attention. In this case, cheating will give the woman an ego boost.
Another reason that applies to both sexes is THE BONDING. You may have chosen your partner because they’re loyal and loving and you know they would never hurt you, which is all good and endearing. But at the same time, you might not necessarily find them exciting or sexy.
You might think, you really love your relationship, but there’s a sexual charge that’s missing. You could have found that sexual tension with someone else.
Also, by being intimate with someone else, you may be seeking validation of something you’ve suspected for a while: You’re no longer in the right relationship, even though it was the right one for you before.
For instance, maybe you met your significant other in your village, and after a few years together, you moved to a big town and started working. You’ve outgrown this romance, and your unfaithfulness may have stemmed from this fact.
Lastly, it is well documented that women tend to cheat up, bedding potentially more suitable mates, while men cheat down and all around. As my friend Pix says, a man will leave a 9/10 babe, and cheat with a 4/10 babe.
Hillary is the Founder of hillarykbainny.com. He is also the Uganda Youth Leader to UN. He is a Debate and Speech Protagonist. He is also the Founder of Public Policy Forum Uganda. He is a Sexual Revolutionist
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Interesting read ????????
Well,you have an interesting theory which i think is relatable.there couldn't be more reasonable excuses.people know what they do.
Well,you have an interesting theory which i think is relatable.there couldn't be more reasonable excuses.people know what they do.
Well,you have an interesting theory which i think is relatable.there couldn't be more reasonable excuses.people know what they do.
Well,you have an interesting theory which i think is relatable.there couldn't be more reasonable excuses.people know what they do.
Well,you have an interesting theory which i think is relatable.there couldn't be more reasonable excuses.people know what they do.